April 10, 2017

Why is it that we stigmatize the need for counseling? Why are we afraid to get help? Why do we think that it is a good idea to go through life without a brain/psychology coach? The answers lie in the thought that to get help means we are broken or worse yet, crazy. This could not be any less true.

Just as we need a coach for sports or a teacher for trigonometry or a spiritual leader for faith, we need a brain counselor to help us navigate the ever changing world. Humans accumulate all kinds of memories and feelings throughout life in the womb and beyond that affect us at the cellular level epigenetically. We then become an emotional amalgam of all of these social inputs from our parents, siblings and friends.

If a large portion of these inputs have been negative, your internal tape recorder may play a tune that is not self serving. If a small portion is off, it may hamper a unique part of your growth that you cannot see.

Studies show that Americans are more stressed than any time in history. The constant negativity on the news coupled with poor lifestyle choices is leading us astray and away from balance. To reset this balance, we need to focus on positive brain inputs to counteract the tape recorder. Here is where a good counselor can come in.

A counselor offers a non judgmental human focused path toward self balance that is generally unique to the person since we are all unique creatures. As noted in the piece by Rea Wright, we need to take time to recognize and live with change that is natural even if it hurts. Being aware is the first priority. Sometimes we need an expert to open our eyes. It is not a sign of weakness. It is true strength to grow into change and pain. Seeking a counselor's advice can nudge you on your path to healing and happiness.

As noted in the essay, we are all going through changes throughout life. Honor each and every growth inducing change. Learn from them. And live strong.

Dr. M